Birth of a Mother

The last time we published a blog was about 2 weeks before baby girl made her debut. Now she’s 4 1/2 months old and I’m finally ready to share the story of her arrival and how I became a mother.

Before we became 3

Before we became 3

As with most births, the process begins long before the baby is actually delivered, they call this labor. For me, labor was completely different than I expected. I  went in for my 38 week appointment and I felt terrible: exhausted and woozy and I was already dilated pretty well. For the first time ever, my blood pressure was high so they sent me over to the hospital for observation, my blood pressure was up, down, up and all around so my OB decided it would be best to admit me and see if we could  get things going as natural as possible. Even though I wasn’t really prepared to stay at the hospital, we were excited that the process had started.

I was hooked up to all kinds of monitors, and Cory had his couch bed all ready to go as we tried to rest for the work we knew would be coming soon. I didn’t sleep at all that night and by the next morning they checked me and  said, you’re progressing fast! I naively thought to myself, we’re going to have this baby by lunch time. Our amazing, kind, generous, faithful, hardworking, irreplaceable Doula, Becky joined us at the hospital and we began the walking, rocking and encouraging labor to really kick in. So here’s the part that most women will want to punch me in the face for, my contractions weren’t bad at all, I don’t think the nurses believed me. Maybe it’s that I was singing along to All Sons & Daughters  and Jourdan Johnson (this is seriously my favorite)  the whole time and that kept me in the zone, who knows. So after 24 hrs of labor, I was still stuck at the same place I had been when they told me I was progressing fast :/.  By this time they figured out that our sweet daughter that had been head down, face down every. single. ultrasound. was now face up and hadn’t moved down at all. So, we began pitocin and all kinds of  positions to get her to turn and move down. It was a no go and I was exhausted, even through all the pitocin and blood pressure monitoring the contractions were manageable but I was sooooo tired. So, holding on to hope that I could still have our girl without surgery, we got an epidural and I rested for about 30 minutes.

Love

Love

I can not go any further without stopping to say, my husband is amazing. Most people that know him well know that he is tender hearted and we were both unsure how he would do seeing me in pain. Cory was so awesome not only just holding my hand, but breathing with me, applying counter pressure, affirming me and looking at me with love filled eyes. He was perfect.

They came back to check me and at this point we had been laboring for 36 hours, and they were very concerned about my blood pressure that was rising. The last option to get our daughter here safely was to have a c-section. A c-section was the last thing I wanted but there was nothing else left to do. I was at peace until right before they took me back to surgery and I had to just trust the Lord’s sovereignty & rest that whatever happened would be in his hands, like it always is.

My first peek!

My first peek!

The moment our daughter entered  the outside world I calmed down. Our darling girl had been stuck sideways and face up! The first thing I heard was the doctor exclaim with a surprised tone, “Oh she’s beautiful!” followed by her cry, but she only cried until they got her warmed and wrapped up. Cory brought her over to me and I said, “Hi Rylie” and she looked at me with her big soulful eyes, put her head on my cheek and sighed.

I thought my heart would burst. This was THE  moment I became a mother and I hope I never, ever forget her content sigh. She knew me, knew the sound of my voice and the beat of my heart, never have I experienced someone knowing me so intimately immediately upon meeting. From that moment on, I have been profoundly changed.

Connection

Connection

So much of  our experience becoming parents has driven Cory & I closer to each other and the feet of Jesus. Being a mother is wonderful, scary, exciting, exhausting, joy-filled and refining.  God gave us the best gift in our daughter, she is better than I ever could have dreamed up and because of her Father is shinning a bright light on the corners of my selfish, prideful heart. The only things more transformative for me than becoming a mother has been becoming a wife and follower of Jesus. We had some intense, scary moments in the hours, days and weeks following Rylie’s birth with my health and in every moment I am certain that we were being held by the Holy Spirit and prayers from dear friends & family.

Dr. Pevitoe

Dr. Pevitoe

What I want our daughter to know about her birth is that she is worth every minute of labor, delivery and postpartum, and we love her more than our own breaths, but we will never love her as much as Jesus does. “In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.”- 1 John 4:9-10

Very first cupcake!

Very first cupcake!

Daddy's in Love

Daddy’s in Love

1st "official" family pic

1st “official” family pic

Sleepy Newborn

Sleepy Newborn

A New Schibler on the Horizon Means a New Name

Hello All!

Cory here, and I thought I would take some time to share with you about our baby’s new name. For those of you not in the know, we have decided our baby’s name will be

Rylie Jean Schibler

Now I’m sure that if you know us at all, you know that I am very happy about my ability to write and think creatively, but I have no shame in sharing with you this was nowhere near a creative endeavor on our part. As we were driving home one day, I glanced to my left and saw an O’Reilly auto parts sign, and I spoke up to Crystal and said “what about Rylie?”

Sidebar: the last few months have been pretty difficult for us. I stepped away from my job in February, at the prompting of the Spirit and wise counsel from those we most trust spiritually. We didn’t have any other job lined up, but we knew it was time to move on. This was an easy decision to make from a spiritual aspect, but from an economic standpoint it was terrifying. That has only been amplified by the last few months as I’ve received email after email explaining to me how they had gone with someone “more qualified.”

However, God has been so good to us. I have never felt more provided for and loved than I have during this time. I might not always show it, but it’s true. The longer I am without a job, the longer Crystal and I get to see how God provides for us. Some weeks it’s been through mowing a lawn. One week it was through helping shape reclaimed fence wood into picture frames. And in small little increments from week to week it’s from teaching some dear friends’ son how to play the drums.

I hate not having a job. It’s ridiculously frustrating and I am more than qualified to do 90% of the jobs I’ve been rejected from, but for us in this moment life is so good. I have a wife that I love dearly, and I have a beautiful baby girl who is going to be here before we know it. And the reason that life is so good is because we constantly remind ourselves that God is sufficient for us. Because of him, we need not fear the unknown, or the unexpected.

The name Rylie means courageous. The name Jean, which we have chosen as a tribute to Crystal’s mom, means God is gracious. I had no idea when I mentioned the name Rylie that we were choosing a name which speaks directly to our circumstances. Our new daughter’s name literally means “be courageous for God is gracious.”

It is my prayer that we will display that to our daughter. That the meaning of her name will be lived out in her home. I pray if you are reading this and facing a situation which is very painful and fear-inducing to you, that you would be comforted by these words. And for those of you in that place, I’ll leave you with the words that God gave to Joshua in a time of great fear for Israel.

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9 ESV)

May The Lord bless and keep you, and remind you of His goodness, and His sufficiency for you.

Coco

Winner, Winner, Dessert Dinner!

What a day it has been! Finding out we are going to parent a daughter was so surprising and exciting. God has been gracious and loving as we walk this new path, He is so good!  Many of you have been excited with us, prayed with us and we are thankful for you. 60+ people cast their votes!  We wish we could give each one of you a prize for being awesome. But, without further adieu: Our big winner in the guess the gender contest is our  friend Phillip Cole.

Let us tell you a tiny bit about Phil, he’s husband to one of the most beautiful women on the planet, father to a handsome little boy, the front man for the worship band Burgundy Road, and walks in the light of the Gospel. The way the man lives reflects Jesus. We are so blessed to know Phil!

What many may not know is that Phil is somewhat of the baby gender predictor, we just found out that this is the 5th gender he has guessed correctly in a row! So, if you are pregnant and want some insight, give Phil a call 🙂 *Phillip will receive some goodies straight from our oven filled with love and yumminess.